I apologise for how long this has taken! It’s been a strange few months with lots of ups and downs.
Dad has deteriorated, as was to be expected, but this knowledge stills comes with its own sting. The mess up with his medication set us back, after that he never really returned to the same plane of brain power that he was at before. the memantine dose has been adjusted, hopefully we are now at a level where he will stay as stable as possible, although I know in my heart and my head that the next 6-12 months are going to be the last months that I have with the father that he has become.
Too many things have happened to go into, more of them sad than funny so I won’t tell you about that. He still lies about his icecream consumption (he has turned into quite the naughty school boy), pretends that the dog has stolen everything (she hid his keys the other day), and tells me that he has never seen a clock with hands (he was a clockmaker…). These are all the silver linings.
I am grateful for the childhood I’ve had, the parents I have had the pleasure and honour to spend time with. I’ve known 2 versions of my dad so far, the latest far kinder and gentler than the first, but the first far stronger and solid. It has done wonders for my DIY and phone skills (although we did have to get builders in to fix the fence….).
I’ve become good at getting what I want. It would seem that a primary carer is rarely in their early 20’s. People are starting to learn that I will not be swayed like a child, and that I will certainly not give up until I have the best for the person that means the most to me in the world.
Dog is still excellent. She truly has been the best therapy for him, god knows where we would be without her. It has been suggested that he goes into a home to take the burden from me, we may as well stop all medication if he couldn’t be with dog.
My course is going well, I’m about 6 months from qualifying as a real life vet! My plan is to go home for a few months to get things in order while trying to find a job nearby. We will see.
The care dad has been getting has been variable but it is slowly improving. We had a scare when he lost a lot of weight and passed out - turned out he wasn’t being fed properly. He has since put some weight on and is fairly rosey in the cheeks.
Dads shaving has become a high point of my visits. His side burns are being shave shorted and shorter - we are now just above his ears. I’ve told him we will be sending him to a monastery if he shaves anymore. He thinks this is great fun but really doesn’t see what all the fuss is about. Men!
That’s enough for now. I’ll try harder in the future!! (although the festive season is hit or miss in its enjoyability chez moi!)